. . . I try to make it suck a little less.
That’s my Foster Parenting motto. I may have t-shirts printed, or pillows embroidered, because I believe it. I’m not saying that there aren’t many, many, many people who try really hard to make foster care okay for the children and youth. But most kids would rather live with family than with strangers. And foster families start out being strangers.
Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE being a Foster Parent. I love the wackiness, the craziness, the ups and downs, twists and turns. Maybe it shouldn’t be called foster parenting, we should call it EXTREME PARENTING. After all, a lot of the children and youth in foster care have experienced their own extremes, and helping them can make the eyes water.
Sometimes it feels like jumping off a cliff hoping the parachute opens. (But I packed it, so I know it will.)
So when this stranger meets her next Foster Person, she won’t tell them that everything will be better now. She’ll say, “I know . . . foster care sucks. Let’s see if we can make it suck a little less.”
But secretly she’s hoping to make it okay and, eventually, better than okay.